Day 11: Be in the present

Coping with ChristmasGoing through fertility treatment or the monthly cycle of hope and disappointment can propel you into a situation where you are thinking back into the past or forward into the future and never spending any time thinking about the present.

Always thinking about what has been or anticipating what is to come can be exhausting and may lead to a sense of things getting away from you.

This type of thinking can also interfere with simple pleasures such as being with friends or family, making love or making time to be creative.

Mindfulness classes, yoga and meditation all foster a sense of being ‘in the moment’ and can aid relaxation.

Sometimes something as simple as going for a walk, taking photographs, painting or drawing, singing, dancing or playing an instrument can re-engage your mind with the more playful self that stress and anxiety can smother.

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